My father would always directly tell me that if I meet a lady I would love to marry I should not hesitate to bring her home; he would also indirectly tell me how he married late, that his first child is age mates with the last children of his own age mates. My mother on a separate note will tell […]
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Mule!! (The hardball beneath my Elbow) I zoomed Mule’s picture a little closer, so I could take a better and closer look. Running my little fingers over his portrait, I smiled with admiration, with my eyes full to the brim with tears, I said to myself, ”I can do this, I have done this before, I have always been careful, […]
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The issue of sex has really affected many relationships. Sex is a very serious issue that many people like to pretend about it. If not well handled in a relationship, it can create many problems that will destroy the relationship beyond redemption. Any relationship that is built on deceit will affect marriage negatively and even lead to divorce if care […]
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Most people today are marrying for the wrong reasons ‘oh we look good together, oh we have so many likes on social media’ others because their friends are all married and they are still single. They go into marriage forgetting that marriage requires a lot of hard work and sacrifice and compromise. Sometimes the woman makes it hard for the […]
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A while ago I thought, why does it seem that most prominent black female activists seem to be dating white men? Then I had a moment of introspection where I thought, hang on, I’m one of those women. I speak up about racism and sexism affecting black women. I have an online following. And I have a white fiance who […]
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My son, I will be very raw and sincere with you. Do not worry about the size of a woman buttock or breast but worry about the size of her heart and brain. Worry about the size of her love and endurance. Because after 5 or 10 years, it will not be about the breast or buttock. As you can […]
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Dearest Debbie Chagu, Drawing from the fuel of my emotions, my pen trembles as it begins its journey of writing to you about you. Even for a writer, the words to flesh my thoughts correctly have suddenly gone extinct and my vocabulary begging for an overhaul, for how do you begin to write about one who means so much to […]
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Oh, where have the last two years gone? 24 months since we welcomed you into this world with great joy and delight, today we feel all the more happy to see your sweet face, your personality is so amazing, you are so funny and so adorable. I speak life and greatness into your life. How you make us laugh, love […]
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So today I turn 38. It’s been a long shot. There is so much to say or spill, but I will just summarize. The rest will come up in a book someday. The Lord has been merciful to me. I shouldn’t have been alive today if not for his mercies. I’ve escaped murder, survived a drowning river, got picked from […]
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An error does not become truth by reason of multiplied propagation. Nor does truth become error because nobody sees it – Ghandi. Facebook My attention was drawn to Facebook almost a decade ago by my beloved sister and friend Ikyuma Doris Aondo-akaa, who led and supervised my account opening. In the days before the platform, especially within Benue’s cyberspace, became acrimoniously […]
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