Dey For Who Dey For You; Naija 2025 Slogan

Inspirational, Stories 1/01/2025 by Ojotule Angela Omaji

I had a friend who called only when she needed something, mostly money and I would assist her with whatever I had. There was this day she called me as usual and I told her, I didn’t have in fact,  I was looking for money to add and pay my rent. She never called to find out if I was about to sort it or if my landlord threw me out. After a few months, I called her to find out how she was doing and she said she was fine. I told her, you didn’t call to even check up on me since the last time we spoke that I told you I had issues with my rent and she told me she knew I would be fine. All I wanted was a little care from her, not even money. I was there for someone who wasn’t there for me

One of the simplest yet most powerful life lessons is learning to be there for those who are there for you. This is important to reciprocate the love, support, and loyalty that others give to you. When people are there for you, offering help, kindness, or a listening ear, it creates a sense of trust and dependence. The emotional connection is strengthened when you, in turn, show up for them, offering your own support when they need it.

Healthy relationships thrive when both parties contribute to each other’s well-being. If one person is always there for the other without any reciprocation, over time, feelings of imbalance and the person begins to feel used. It’s crucial to remember that relationships are not one-sided.

Know Who Dey For You (Recognizing Who Is There for You)

The first step in understanding the importance of being there for those who are there for you is recognizing the people who offer their support and care. These are the people who:

Listen Without Judgement: They are the ones who take the time to truly listen to you when you’re struggling, without rushing to offer advice or criticize. They hold space for your emotions and let you express yourself freely.

Show Up When You Need Them: Whether it’s a difficult day at work, a personal crisis, or a moment of triumph, the people who are there for you will show up, physically or emotionally, when it matters most. They don’t wait for an invitation—they understand that their presence is important.

Offer Support: These individuals offer help and support without expecting anything in return. Their loyalty and commitment are unwavering, even when things get tough.

Celebrate Your Successes: When you’re achieving your goals or experiencing joy, they are genuinely happy for you and celebrate your successes with you, without jealousy or competition

Make Time for You: In a world full of distractions, the people who are truly there for you prioritize time spent together. They make an effort to nurture the relationship and show that you matter to them.

These are the people who show through their actions that they care. They may not always have the perfect words or grand gestures, but their consistent presence in your life speaks volumes.

Dey For Who Dey For YOU (Be There for Those Who Are There for You)

Being there for others doesn’t require grand gestures or significant sacrifices. It’s often the small, consistent actions that show the most care. It is about reciprocating the love, kindness you received listening, showing up when people need you, offering support, celebrating the success of others, Make time for other as well. Even if everything seems fine, don’t wait for a crisis to check in with the people who matter. A simple text, call, or message can go a long way in letting someone know you care and are thinking of them.

This year, we will make a conscious effort to avoid people who are not there for us. We will stop holding on to toxic relationships that drain our energy and leave us feeling empty. Whether it’s a friend who never reaches out or family who doesn’t make an effort to support us, we will learn to let go of those who refuse to show up.